The First lesson to learn in Self-Defense is that you’re important. The most precious possession you will ever have is you. No-one has the right to hurt, intimidate or harass you. You have the right to protect yourself and you’re worth fighting for.
The next most important lesson is to learn how to comprehend that your mind is the most valuable weapon, in self-Defense we use our brain to control anxiety and anxiety, use our mind to evaluate a situation and to judge the most appropriate actions to take. We utilize our Brain to make decisions and making decisions is a huge part of Self-Defense. Self Defense isn’t just about learning a few techniques; it is about all of the things we do on a daily basis to make our lives safer.
Much of it is common sense and the rest of it only makes sense. Some things you just do without thinking about if it is wearing a seatbelt, crossing the street or using a knife safely. At one time people had to be made to wear seatbelts in the vehicle, today people sit in a vehicle and reach across with no thought. It indicates that if you do something often enough, it will become a habit, then it becomes instinctive.
Staring at the floor, hunched shoulders, hiding your hands in your pockets and making yourself small, conveys the message-“I’m weak and vulnerable”. Women become targeted as easy prey so having powerful body language decreases the possibility of being a target. Make eye contact with individuals in a manner that lets them know you have seen them (Would-be Criminals are much less inclined to do anything if they think that they could be identified).
Swing your arms when walking, take up space. Strong Body Language not only affects how others view you but it raises your own confidence. Compare Predators on the roads to Predators in the wild, they’re not searching for the biggest, boldest, strongest creature to bring down but the weak, isolated or wounded. Try not to put yourself in a place in which it increases your vulnerability. Predators aren’t looking for a fight but a simple kill and once the target struggles back ferociously the Predator will frequently abort. Asserting yourself is an important part of taking charge of your life. If someone’s behavior is making you feel awful, uncomfortable or fearful then face the individual. Tell them – Name the behaviour, Criticize it, tell them what you want them to do: -“You’re always touching me, I do not enjoy it, stop it” – Repeat if needed.
This is a direct, non-engaging method of establishing what you need, avoid saying please when you’re asserting yourself. If someone is bothering you in a Public Place, create a scene, it’ll be more embarrassing for that individual than for you. Your voice is a weapon too. Yelling will alert others about and can startle an attacker.
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It may also help channel your fear into aggression – Shout “NO” loudly and deeply from the gut. Trust your instincts, if something doesn’t look right, then it likely isn’t. Say somebody unpleasant is after you – Trust your intuition and do something if it is facing them, getting to security, calling someone or obtaining a weapon ready. Get a mobile phone, it is not expensive if it is for Emergency only, not only are you able to muster assistance from anywhere but you can also use it as a weapon (if you learn how).
We encourage individuals to use their voice after a physical confrontation has started. Shouting loudly as you hit serves many functions. Firstly, you might startle the attacker with a sudden loud shout, you’re also bringing attention to yourself so someone may come to your aid, you might be creating witnesses which might be convenient if you caused physical injury to your attacker at Self Defense because it might well come to a situation where it is just your word against theirs, but if it just so happened that a passer-by heard you yelling “Let go, let go” then suddenly becomes evidence. Shouting also tenses up your abdominal area so if you happened to be given a hit at that exact same time then you are not as likely to be winded by it.