It’s about time we believe further to be sure our daughters have a much better life than we do. Ok, in the western world, women’s situation isn’t so bad: they could vote. They can study, work, aim for the top positions politically and in business associations. The reality though is in the numbers.
The truth is also that working women with children aren’t just consumed with guilt, but they also feel a pressure that guys don’t feel. The pressure I am referring to is the one connected to physical appearance and ability to seduce and convince. It’s hard to change patterns which have been happening for centuries. The shortage of self-confidence in many women comes from the fact that, for a lengthy time, girls have seen themselves throughout the men’s eyes.
I had been looking at the TV series Bewitched with my daughter the other day. And suddenly I knew why unconsciously I had prohibited all pink and girlies things for my daughter, who, because of this, hasn’t played dolls, princess or anything like that. I guess I had the intimate conviction that this was a fraud. I believe it is difficult shopping for presents for women because I don’t need to feed into this painful, servile drive to confine women in an obedient national function.
If we need the man female interaction to change, then it must start in education. It must start in our homes. Who would provide a doll or an ironing board to a boy? Who would offer automobiles, power symbols into a woman? My little boy who’s five loved to dress a baby doll failed by my daughter, but quite shortly peer pressure instructed him that it’s not cool to do this for a boy: it’s a girl thing! How long more learning to look after others will remain a primarily woman thing? Most of the best teachers my children have had were male teachers; they were very diligent about teaching respect between sexes, teaching boys and girls to work together. It’s stunning to me to see how it is, here in California.
From a very early age, boys are encouraged to interact with boys just and idem for women. How come we do not see how profoundly wrong this is? Women and men are extremely different, so are girls and boys. This is why we will need to put more effort to be certain they acclimate and comprehend in a respectful manner one another. When I completed the equivalent of fifth grade in France, I changed school to begin my middle school years. I was one of twenty two other women the first generation of female pupils in a fifty year old boy college.
How to survive
To “survive” in that male dominated environment, we all had to review our behaviours and our way of thinking. We had to be like the boys in games they were playing for quite a long time, which were new to us. Personally, it wasn’t hard, I loved boys games; I found them much more fun than anything that the women did. That experience probably shaped me more than I’ve ever know. I guess my first interest for man’s mind rooted there. I think today that we will need to create a balanced communication between women and men.
This is what my site will be around: PeaceReminder will be this bridge which makes clear for men what women really want in their relationship. But we will need to restore healthy women relationships. The insecurity most girls feel interfere with their relationship not just with men but also with women. Because of this, women aren’t helping one another the way they could. By the time we’ll have attained complete male female equality in home and childcare duties, we may as well be dead and our kids too. Collective patterns are extremely tough to change. Before we blame men for not changing fast enough, we ought to review our own behaviors.
We need an increasing number of women in the workforce, especially in major positions. Personal satisfaction is also critical for the majority of women, and this is healthy. It’s beneficial to them and for the planet, since it fosters values and ethics in the business world. A woman who has kids will be less likely to make decisions which could potentially harm her kids in the long term. This is exactly what the world need. So not only we would benefit to have more women in leading positions, we would benefit even more if those girls had a satisfying personal life. The entire work place would be changed. For that we have to support one another.
We shouldn’t feel threatened by the appearance or the achievement of another woman. We’re not in competition anymore to get the complete attention of a man for our sake and future. Our daughters will grab the opportunity that has been offered to us, to be completely financially independent from the beginning: they will choose their male partner as they want a satisfying personal life, not because they need to. Raising children ought to be part of this process in a manageable manner. I keep repeating post after post a day is twenty four hours no matter what. It’s unsustainable to ask a girl to have two, sometimes three jobs per day. You understand that I am adamant about domestic assistance, believing it’s a necessity to maintain all sanity. I also feel that more girls interactions would lower the stress level of many.
Women benefit from speaking to one another. Even John Gray in his final publication Venus on Fire Mars on Ice says so. In human history raising a child has fallen on the shoulders of one individual only. If you have a look at traditional communities, after they’re weaned, kids are raised by the whole community. So what exactly are we waiting for to increase the mutual help we could provide? Why is there so few carpool such as? Women after freeing themselves more or less successfully from a male tutorial program, have submitted to the dictatorship of their own kids. They allow who they should direct function as advice. They follow their children’ agenda relentlessly. I am close to think that there’s a conspiracy to be certain women won’t ever reach their full potential.
Once you’ve a child nowadays, know that crystal is a lot easier to look after. You, the mother, are responsible for his health, his mental health, his development, his growth, his mindset. And only a bit like the few hours embryo is a human being with full rights, know that the kid is a miniature adult with full consent. In reality this kid has more rights than you, the mom, do. He can traumatize you by forcing you mad but you can not take any steps of retorsion since this is bad parenting. This kid needs to express himself, he wants to be heard, he wants to be acknowledged every moment, even if this kid has no sense of boundaries and measures over your own personal space repeatedly.
A child is self-centered, which is part of the practice of being a kid. As a result he’s completely selfish, which selfishness ought to be weeded out if we need to finally make a responsible and caring adult from that kid. Children aren’t those delicate animals, easily traumatized that many parenting lecturers will claim they are: if that were so we wouldn’t exist. How could our grandparents or even our parents have dealt with the dreadful youth they had when they weren’t seen nor heard? Children are growing beings who want assistance and love until their brain is fully developed. So can we stop pretending that these small beings have the capacity to decide for themselves.
The worse is adolescent years. It appears that the more research has been done on those transitional years the less common sense we’re using. Teenagers are deceiving because quite quickly they seem like grown-ups even when their mind is still a youngster’s brain. How do we expect a teenager to make the perfect choice for his own sake when he doesn’t have the mind to do so? So we do not carpool because the kid doesn’t want to, as it isn’t fun for him. Are we mad? We should not let kids rule our lives. It’s harmful for us and for them. Please see my other article “kids should come after your few” for that matter. Ladies friends, the option is this: either we find a way to bring back balance in our lives or we stop having children altogether. For those people who already have kids, there’s absolutely no choice: we must find a way! Women, get together, be kind to one another, make your life easier, help one another, so that you may express your potential. Have no fear. Other women and lots of men will be here to cheer you.