I see many young adult women in counseling who have left home for the first time. This time of transition is quite important in becoming “launched” into adult life. Going through changes like leaving home, moving, starting a new job, can sometimes cause depression. There are several adjustments to be made and changes, even great ones can be stressful and anxiety producing.
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The losses involved in letting go of the safety of family, home, old friends can bring up depression, feelings of insecurity, and fear of the future. Signs of depression could include issues with sleeping and eating, either too much or too little, difficulty concentrating, low mood, crying, and irritability. Sometimes these ideas and feeling pass by themselves and occasionally getting help is quite helpful. San Francisco is a place many young folks come when they’re getting started in adult life by themselves.
The prices for living expenses are so high that many young women find themselves in roommate situations, or if they could afford it, have little studio flats. Some folks take the chance to try living with their significant other. In any circumstance, life after leaving your parent’s house will have challenges and joys. You might end up feeling much more nostalgic than you anticipated. You might observe that having roommates is much different from having your parents to assist when sibling conflicts came up. Or, you may feel glad to be away from home, with some guilt about that maybe.
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Sometimes you can get the understanding that your family didn’t prepare you very well for life by yourself, or perhaps you have already known that. If you are attempting to solidify a significant relationship by living together, there may be unexpected bumps as you learn how to negotiate the differences in how you associated with each other when dwelling does not have the distance of two different living arrangements. And occasionally a few will also have roommates to contend with, adding sophistication to your own situation.
When young adults encounter treatment, it’s often after a recently tried experience did not work out, like a failed relationship or a job which isn’t working. That may feel so discouraging. Also, your relationship with your family members might be more complicating than inviting. It’s extremely important to not forget that experiences felt as”failures” can actually be a part of their independence learning curve. You might notice that you’re having trouble bringing down your drinking after plenty of college partying. Or that you’re irritable and anxious about how to “prove” yourself on earth.
Final note
And with so much financial trauma happening in our country at the moment, it’s a really stressful time to be in the start phase of your life. Getting therapy can be quite helpful. You may be able to have a few meetings to discuss your situation and feel a good deal better. Sometimes there are ongoing problems such as an eating disorder or history of depression that could use more help. If you are considering asking your parents for financial support for treatment, or they’ve offered it, one recommendation I have is to see if there’s some way that you pay for part of the treatment from your own money, even if it’s only $5-$10. You may find this a hard idea, but I think it’s a means to foster the path to your independence. Additionally, sometimes there are complicating factors involved in getting your parents pay, and these may be discussed at the start meetings to know what would work best for you.